Quotes mentioned in the audio are attached as .pdf
Steven Curtis Chapman - I Heard The Bells https://youtu.be/TguAMuAgK3A
"What are the secondary lessons of biblical discipline? Even though the child will not be able to fully appreciate the importance of submission, training him to do what he ought, regardless of how he feels, prepares him to be a person who lives by principle rather than mood or impulse. He learns that he cannot trust himself to judge right and wrong. He must have a reference point outside himself. He learns that behavior has moral implications and inevitable outcomes. ... Don't waste time trying to sugarcoat submission to make it palatable. Submission necessarily means doing what you do not wish to do. It is never easy or painless. True biblical submission must be found in knowing Christ and his grace. Don't try to make it something that does not require grace. Don't reduce submission to authority to that which fits natural man and natural abilities."